So this weekend was pretty busy for me and my family. Friday night I had a show in Independence, MO at a very cool church and we played along with a great band called “Glory Road”. The style of music was way different from what Tripleshift is all about (their sound was more of a laid back Southern rock style) and the lead guy named Jeff provided great tunes with even better ministry.
Saturday night we had a fund-raising show in Hiawatha, KS which was roughly 2 hours from home and to be honest, I was kind of bummed about the long drive. However, it was cool riding with Big Mikey (our manager and my best friend) ’cause we got a chance to just B.S. about stuff. (note, Big Mikey’s choice of Funions and the odor that they emit was enough to make a horse puke…)
So we get to Hiawatha and the people are so cool. The young lady who organized the event, Elizabeth, was really cool and gave us the details on her friend Heather and what was going on with her.
Heather is 31 years old and in February of this year was diagnosed with ALS (Lou Gehrig’s Disease). This is a disease that attacks the nerve cells in the brain and spinal cord that control voluntary muscle movement. This is a terminal disease with a mortality rate of 80% within 5 years of diagnosis.
After completing our set (which included a testimony about my brother Peter who suffered brain damage at birth, discussing how the Lord places situations in our lives because He knows that we are strong enough to not only “handle them” but also to become a blessing to others by being an example of His glory and grace), Elizabeth brought Heather over to us (we were getting our equipment packed away and Heather was in her wheelchair that night). I was pumped to finally speak with her and get a first hand insight into who she is.
Heather was definitely willing to share her story with me and she showed a lot of strength. Once we got into things, I asked her if she was right with God and she replied by saying she was “getting there”. I understood because of all the questions she must have had about why God would “do this” or “allow this”. I asked if she was angry and she said that she had been, but it seemed like she was starting to understand, primarily because when I asked if she had any children, she said “no” because she wasn’t able and now she realizes why. This was definitely a faith statement that came from deep within Heather.
You know, when someone is going through an illness, a loss, a struggle, etc., many times they just want you to be there to listen. So many times we think by telling that person about our OWN struggles, it makes them feel better. It doesn’t. When ministering to someone who carries a heavy burden, the best we can do is to focus on them and be sure to listen carefully to what they are really saying. With Heather, listening told me that, even though she wasn’t yet able to come out and give a statement of faith, I know she’s opened the door for the Holy Spirit to enter and simply said, that’s all He needs. What I did tell her was that we don’t have answers to these questions because we’re not God. He is so complex that our minds can’t ever comprehend even the most “obvious” of His workings. In fact, if we find ourselves in the deepest of thought, trying to “understand” Him, we will ultimately find ourselves at a place of total faith because a common knowledge explanation isn’t possible. Those who do not believe, CHOOSE not to believe and if they were true to themselves, they would.
As for Heather, I know she believes and for that reason she’s going to be ok. Sure the disease will get worse and I’m not making light of that fact. However, I’m pretty confident she understands that the imperfection of this life is simple proof that there is perfection in life with the Lord.